TLDR

Advice for divorced women: focus on finding a pet-friendly, childcare-efficient home near schools, manage emotions with new routines, coordinate moving logistics smoothly, and build a supportive community in your new chapter.

Step 1 of 5: Charting Your Search

Charting a New Course along the James

Photo of Richmond’s riverfront rowhouses lining the James River with a sunset glow.  A moment pictured by Blue Bird
Photo of Richmond’s riverfront rowhouses lining the James River with a sunset glow. A moment pictured by Blue Bird

When life split into two homes, the James River skyline became a symbol of a new beginning. A two-bedroom layout, office nook by the window, and a fenced yard for a rescue dog were on the must-have list. With a 6.2% rate preapproval from Virginia Credit Union in hand, searches on Glen Allen and West End school zones began—always under a 20‑minute drive to Short Pump for smooth custody swaps.

A local snapshot

On night one, gazing over Libby Hill—the same view Thomas Jefferson likened to the Thames—reminded me fresh starts are woven into Richmond’s history.

Step 2 of 5: Finding the Right Home

Zeroing In on the Right Home

Open-house scene showcasing modern loft interiors in Scott’s Addition on a sunny day.  Captured by Max Vakhtbovycn
Open-house scene showcasing modern loft interiors in Scott’s Addition on a sunny day. Captured by Max Vakhtbovycn

Scrolling listings felt like paddling against the river. With Happy New Beginnings guiding a two‑week “tour blitz,” I focused on foundation integrity, HVAC age, and post‑2015 roof work. Homes under $400K in Bellevue snapped up fast—so I set alerts for “three-bed, fenced lot, <20 mins to Short Pump” and pre‑reviewed inspection clauses. A side entrance off the driveway kept custody handoffs low‑drama.

A real moment

At a Bellevue open house, I almost fell for a jetted tub—until my agent reminded me a mudroom mattered more on rainy soccer Saturdays.

Step 3 of 5: Managing Emotions

Managing Emotional Currents

Richmond’s Carytown street illuminated by festive holiday lights, showcasing historic storefronts that symbolize new beginnings for divorced parents..  Captured by Sergio Zhukov
Richmond’s Carytown street illuminated by festive holiday lights, showcasing historic storefronts that symbolize new beginnings for divorced parents.. Captured by Sergio Zhukov

Passing Church Hill bistros and Carytown lights, nostalgia stung. Inspired by local Reddit self‑care threads, I paused between murals, took deep breaths, and joined the Downtown YMCA’s dance‑cycling class. Single‑portion cooking experiments at South of the James Market became new rituals.

A turning point

One chilly morning, my jog past the Lucky Strike tower in Shockoe Bottom finally felt like my own routine.

Step 4 of 5: Moving Day & Setup

Execution: Moving Day to Settling In

Moving truck parked on a quiet street in Forest Hill with furniture being loaded, symbolizing a fresh start for divorced parents embarking on a new chapter in their lives..  Photo taken by Blue Bird
Moving truck parked on a quiet street in Forest Hill with furniture being loaded, symbolizing a fresh start for divorced parents embarking on a new chapter in their lives.. Photo taken by Blue Bird

Two Men and a Truck arrived at dawn; Merry Maids RVA deep‑cleaned. New beds from IKEA arrived via TaskRabbit, Xfinity handled Wi‑Fi, and Dominion Energy utilities flipped over in days. Neutral mediators met us at Hardywood’s lot for asset handoffs, keeping emotions calm.

A memorable exchange

We swapped the old china set in Forest Hill Park’s lot—far from kitchen memories, with room for calm.

Step 5 of 5: Building Community

Forging Community and Growth

Backyard barbecue gathering with neighbors enjoying food and laughter in a Richmond yard..  Lens: Rene Terp
Backyard barbecue gathering with neighbors enjoying food and laughter in a Richmond yard.. Lens: Rene Terp

Anchoring yourself means weaving into neighborhood life. I joined Nextdoor, volunteered at Feed More in Scott’s Addition, and dove into the PTA. Sharing my story on Happy New Beginnings’ blog led to supportive DMs. Six months in, my backyard on Grove Avenue rang with kids’ relay races and neighbor‑brought cobbler.

The welcome moment

After a rain‑shortened barbecue, a new friend texted, “Welcome home.” That’s when it truly felt real.

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